To Work in a Relationship

What does it actually mean to work in a relationship? Is it to go and earn money? Or maybe work it is a house work? And when both work in a relationship it looks like this: he goes out and works and she stays at home and also works? I suspect it should be more in this. I would say that work in a relationship is to realize and to meet the needs of your partner. The main point here is not to do what YOU think it is good for them and therefore for your relationship but to do what YOUR PARTNER wants from you to do for him.

Very often spouses don’t realize what is good for them. And, what makes it worse, they never discuss the topic. For example, he earns money and thinks that she should be happy with his work and don’t ask him to do anything other that this. To his mind, his bit of work in a relationship is done. She, on the other side, wants him to listen to her, be caring and more thoughtful in everyday life. So, here a potential disagreement could arise about what the partner does for a relationship and if he does it purely for himself. To work in a relationship means to do things for others without own benefit, to make sacrifices.